What Happened…I thought you were going to Travel the Entire Summer?

Hello Everyone! As usual, long time no hear from. It is really challenging for me to grasp just how fast time is flying! 5 days pass and it feels like 1 for me. Anyway, did ya’ll miss me?? LOL

The last time we “talked”, I posted my first attempt at video blogging and asked you all for your opinions. The overwhelming consensus was that you liked hearing my voice and seeing me. It made it easier to feel connected. Also, some thought it was too long. Duly noted. I do want to do more video posts in the future, but I only feel comfy doing them when I’ve done my hair and makeup. Since I have turned into a no-maintenance woman that virtually never wears makeup or does her hair, they will be fewer and far between. I will work on it though.

So, I’ve received a few emails asking me to start posting again and checking in to see what happened to my travel plans I had penciled in for the summer. You’ll be happy to know that I am returning to posting regularly again. Since I’m not traveling to anywhere exotic until early 2011, it became challenging to post to a blog touting the ‘Exploits of a Single African American Woman Traveling the World’. So, if I have not been traveling, how have I been spending my time?? Well, let me tell you.
I came to LA from Austin on May 14th of this year with the idea of staying a few weeks to liquidate the remainder of my assets and to spend time with my Friends that I so dearly missed in LA. I decided to stay with my BFF Barbi in Orange County while out here. I was then going to travel to Montana for a few weeks to spend time w/my Girlfriend Athena. After Montana, I was going to drive around Canada for a Month before heading to Australia in September for a seminar. I planned on kicking around OZ & New Zealand until early November and then head back to the US to travel in Missouri & Texas till January. Needless to say, those plans got scrapped. After being here for 3 weeks, I was enjoying the beautiful, cool LA weather & my friends so much that I decided to extend my stay for a few months. Also, as I visualized traveling to the places that I mentioned above, I found that I completely had no desire to travel and the Universe was telling me to stay put. I do what I’m told! I am extremely Grateful for the fact that my BFF Barbi has so overwhelmingly graciously allowed me to live with her all this time. There are no words for how much I Love and Appreciate her and her incredible Friendship.

Since I’ve been out here, I’ve taken some much needed time to relax, recalibrate, recharge, re-frame, reignite, relate, release, refocus, rebel, renew and most importantly REST! It’s been a long 2 years of me having to come up with major solutions in my life and figure shit out by myself. I truly didn’t realize just how completely burned-out/exhausted/jaded/hurt/tired I had become. I’ve spent a ton of time reading some incredible self-development books that have gotten my mind right. From the old classic ‘Think and Grow Rich’, ‘Psycho-Cybernetics’, ‘The Master Key to Riches’, ‘Creative Visualization’, ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’, ‘The Energy of Money’, ‘The Four Hour Workweek’ (for the 100th time), ‘Speak and Grow Rich’, ‘The Art of Non-Conformity’, ‘Eat That Frog’, ‘Keys to Success’, ‘The Life Summit’, ‘The Eat Clean Diet’, ‘As a Man Thinketh’ and I have been journaling a ton too. All of this reading & meditating & resting has allowed me to become crystal clear about what my next big goals are that I’m going to pursue. It feels awesome to not be “stuck” any longer. Thank you God!

On the romance front, this summer has been a complete and total bust! I did meet and date one very nice boy, but it was short-lived. Too many differences, but he is an awesome person and Friend that taught me a lot about myself. I literally have zero energy or desire to even think about dating someone. As history has repeated itself over and over again, I’ve come to the very definitive conclusion that I am destined to be a complete and total failure in that part of my life. I’ve basically resigned myself to being alone for the rest of my life. I know that sounds dramatic, but it truly is what I know to be true. Sad and depressing as it is, oh well, what can ya do?

I’ve also been pursuing fun goals just for the hell of it. I have been on 3 auditions in LA and I have gotten all three gigs. The first one I landed was a spot in the cast of the upcoming Billy Blanks infomercial for his new, revolutionary fitness product. I’ve gained a ton of weight over the past 10 months (35lbs to be exact) and I am part of the Testimonial cast for the infomercial. We have to work out with Billy for 10 weeks, 5 days a week, follow a healthy eating plan and then get filmed talking about our incredible results. The final week is this week and we film on the 24th of October. It is not guaranteed that I will appear in the infomercial. I’ll be in it only if the Producers feel that my weight loss transformation is dramatic enough. I can say that in week 9, I am waaaaaay skinnier than when I started. The results thus far are extremely noticeable. I feel so fucking sexy as well. I still have 30lbs to go to reach my ultimate goal of being a lean, muscular size 6 Fitness Model, but I do look and feel good. I’ve given myself until May 2011 to reach my ultimate goal.

Training with Billy Blanks

The 2nd fun thing I auditioned for was to be a contestant on the newly brought back game show, ’1 vs 100′. I auditioned on 8/18. While at the audition, I decided that they were going to choose me to be ‘The 1”. Sure enough, I filmed my episode on 10/15. I cannot disclose the outcome for contractual reasons, but I did have fun. The shows will start airing on The Game Show Network on November 15th, 2010. I do not have an exact air date for mine yet. I’ll keep you posted. The third thing I auditioned for was as a result of a connection via Billy B.’s agent. He connected me with a Producer in LA who called me in to discuss me being on a music show that is in development for Endemol. He had me do a screen test, which I totally kicked ass in. At this stage, he is working on getting the production company to sign off on funding the filming of a pilot. If that happens, I’ll film the pilot. Not holding my breath on that one. One thing I have discovered during my “Hollywood phase” is that I am so damn comfortable being in the spotlight and in front of cameras. I love it!! Weird considering how the “real me” is so damn shy and introverted.

1 vs 100 Audition

Getting my makeup done for the show

We’ve also moved from Orange County to San Diego to a beautiful house a few blocks from the beach! Life here is absolutely INCREDIBLE!! Lots of happiness & pure Blissful Joy in this house!! Yay!!

Now that it is mid October, I’m spending my time preparing for my upcoming birthday on 11/7, landing more consulting clients to work with to build up my $$ reserves and working diligently on my big plans that I have set for myself for 2011. I’ll discuss those in detail in an upcoming post.

Ta Ta for now! Xoxo

Video for the original 1 vs 100 show! They’ve changed the version that I appear on a bit, but you get the idea.

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The First OnyxTraveler Video Blog Entry

Welcome to my first video blog entry!! I’m so excited to share this with you! I have been wanting to do video entries for a while and decided today to do my first one. In the video, I talk about the results of the Miss Cougar 2010 contest and everything else that is new with me.

Please do me a favor, if you like the video format, leave me a comment below. I really enjoyed doing it and would like to do more. I just need to know if you want to see them and what content you would like for me to discuss. Also, if we are not already friends on Facebook, click the button on the right and Friend me. Let me know in the Friend Request that you found me via my blog so that I know who you are!

FYI…When I click the big button to start the video, the audio starts but the video doesn’t. When I run my cursor over the video, it then starts to run. This may not occur when you watch the video, but it does when I do. Also, I know I pointed the wrong way for the Facebook button! LOL

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Miss Cougar 2010 Results

Hi Everyone,
I wanted to update all of you on the results of the Miss Cougar 2010 contest!! I came in 4th, but I had a ball! Congratulations to the winner, Ms. CC Perkinson!

Here are pics from the Miss Cougar 2010 contest and the 3 news interviews we were all featured on. Congratulations to CC Perkinson, Miss Cougar 2010!!! You Rocked it Girl!

Me at NBC Studios

The Four Finalists - Me, CC, Kimberly & Denise

And the Winner is...CC Perkinson!! She Rocked It!!!

NBC is Lame and does not allow you to embed their videos, so here are the 2 links to the 2 interviews done by them:

CLICK HERE TO SEE THE 6:45 AM VIDEO INTRODUCING THE COUGAR CONTESTANTS!!

CLICK HERE TO SEE THE 2ND NBC VIDEO OF US AS THEY ANNOUNCE THE WINNER!!

Stay tuned for video blog entries coming up on this blog. I definitely want your feedback after you see it!

xoxo

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MISS COUGAR 2010 – I’M A FINALIST!

WOW…talk about a surprise email this morning. I was notified that I am one of the four finalists in the Del Mar Miss Cougar 2010 contest and the competition is this Friday!! Yikes! I also just found out that there is yet another voting process with the remaining contestants.

I STILL NEED YOUR VOTES: CLICK HERE TO VOTE FOR FINALIST #4 – SHEILA!!

I entered this contest completely as a goofy to do, but now I seriously want to win! I thank all of you that voted for me in the 1st round from the bottom of my heart! I woudn’t be here without you. I need you again, so please inform everyone you know to vote. Unfortunately, you can only vote one time per day per computer. Please spread the word! The site to vote is: www.delmarscene.com… . VOTE FOR COUGAR #4 – SHEILA

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Help me to bring home the crown! Thanks! xoxoxoxo

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MISS COUGAR 2010 – VOTE FOR ME! My Cougar History…

Hey Everyone,

As those of you that are my Facebook friends know, I am a CERTIFIED COUGAR!! What’s a Cougar you ask? A Cougar is a term for a woman over the age of 40 that dates younger men. Those younger men are referred to as Cubs! Grrrrrrrrrr…

cougar dating

I was very recently informed about a contest that The Del Mar racetrack is having their 2nd annual Miss Cougar 2010 Contest. Of course, with me being the self-proclaimed ‘Queen of All Cougars’, I had to enter! I am now in 7th place and voting ends on Friday, July 23rd. Here is the link to vote for me – Contestant #12: . VOTE FOR SHEILA – CLICK HERE !!

So how did I become a Cougar? Funny you should ask. Before turning 40 two years ago, I only dated older men. Not just older, but really old! I had MAJOR Daddy issues and only found men that were in their 60′s & 70′s to be attractive/sexy enough for me to date. In fact, one of the best relationships of my entire life was w/my boyfriend of over 6 years that was twice my age. At that time, I would have NEVER considered dating someone younger than me.

Cougar Dating

That all changed when I turned 40! I met my first “Cub” by chance in 2008. I went to a ski shop to buy an outfit for an upcoming ski trip and I was helped by an uber handsome young man. He was tall and FINE!! After focusing on me for about an hour, I finally found the right outfit. After he rang up my purchases & giving me a generous discount, he very confidently asked me for my phone number. I knew he was younger than me, but I had no idea how young. I immediately gave him my number and floated out of the store. When he called me, I asked him how old he was. I thought he was around 26. When he informed me that he was 20, I damn near died! I was twice his damn age…WTH!?!?!? I didn’t care. He was more confident and approached me in such a mature way and did I mention that he was FINE AS HELL!! Long story short, I was Very Happy to date him for the time we did. It was one of my most rewarding/fulfilling relationships ever. Ever since then, I have had an almost insatiable desire to date Cubs! My sweet spot age for my Cubs is 24 – 29. Reality, I typically tend to date guys that are 32. I love all men, but I love younger men! They have what it takes to keep up with me! LOL

Hollywood has definitely picked up on the trend. Anyone catch CougarTown on ABC? It is a top rated show for them starring Courtney Cox-Arquette. And who doesn’t know about Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher being happily married for several years!

Again, I would SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO appreciate it if you voted for me for Miss Cougar 2010! CLICK HERE TO VOTE! I AM CONTESTANT #12 VOTING IS OPEN UNTIL FRIDAY, JULY 23RD! THANK YOU!

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