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Hey Guys,

It’s been a while. Professionally, I’ve been sort of busy working with my new client and traveling for them. Personally, I am in another period of transition/flux. Not sure what’s going on with me. I’m feeling unmotivated to do much lately and fear programs are running again, arrrrrrrrrrrgh!! I am soooooooo ready to hit the road again, but I’ve got to keep my restless ass still for a few more months and make some more cashola to support my travel addiction. I do not like not having the option right now of being on holiday. What can I do that will pay me massive amounts of money legally without me actually having to do any work??? LOL, I think that is the question that we all would like the answer to. Also, I am now 100% sure that I have adult ADHD. For the past several months, I have had the hardest time staying focused. It has become an INCREDIBLY SERIOUS problem for me at this time and I will be seeking medical attention soon. I’m sensing that Adderall is in my future!! Thankfully, that is the drug that ALL of the Hollywood actresses take to remain skinny so I definitely want to get some. Imagine, a totally focused AND thin Sheila??? Look out now…the world is not ready for that combo!! LOL

Love life: I’ve been spending time with one person lately. We hit it off so well initially, that I put the rest of the harem on the side burner. I’m really not the kind of woman that likes to date a lot of guys at one time, even though I make myself do it. I am incredibly old-fashioned and I enjoy giving one man at a time my attention. Mr. B and I are definitely friends, but we won’t be anything more than that. I adore him and love being around him but he is not my soulmate. Nor am I his – this we are both well aware of. He is one of the few MEN that I have met in my life and I am learning so much from him about how Real Men want to and are capable of treating women. Me not having a father in my life, I was COMPLETELY clueless about the fact that there are men out there that actually WANT to take care of women and love us & protect us if we allow ourselves to receive it. I appreciate you B. so damn much for the lessons & for checking my ass when I get out-of-pocket! LOL Right now, I am completely stuck between wanting to spend time with men and having male attention (physically & emotionally) while having absolutely no strength, energy or desire to meet anyone new. WTF?!?!?! Where do I find a hot guy to come and spend time with me and cater to me when I want him to/how I want him to and then get-the-f*ck-out when I am ready for him leave. That would be an ideal situation!!
Dayum, no wonder I have been single for so many damn years!! Laughing thru my tears!! LOL

One last thing…I finally got around to posting all of the videos I shot while I was in Australia. I really wish I would have shot more . Check them out under the “Videos” tab at the top of the blog.

Until next time, I will leave you with a video representation of what I am CRAVING/MISSING in my life right now!!! I’ve got a few in my stable back in LA that can work it out just like this sexy Mofo! THAT is how you work it!!! Shout out to T.C., J.C. & C.L. ! Dayum, I miss ya’ll! Muah!!!

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Interracial Love – Expanding My Options…

As I have mentioned many times in this blog, I LOVE MEN!!  Tall ones, short ones, skinny ones, round ones, Rich ones, Middle-class ones, etc….  Hell, I’ve even kissed a redneck or two.  LOL!!!  However, it is no secret that I have a particular preference.  Hell, even Stevie Wonder can see it.   One of the things I want to accomplish with this blog is to open people’s eyes to the possibility of opening yourself  to finding love with someone that may not look like you.   I am a Woman that is DRIVEN by having options and I’m glad that I fully exercise my option to love and to be loved by Men of all races.

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Dating in Austin Texas – My Dance Card is Always Full!!

Hi Everyone. There are two questions I get asked pretty frequently from my friends and from facebook people. The most obvious question is, “How are you making money since you don’t work?”. I politely decline to answer that one. There is an information product in that answer that will make me even more money!! LOL The 2nd question I get asked most often is, “How is your love life in Austin?”. Well, I’m happy to report that my dating life here in TX is everything I thought it would be and so much more. Allow me to explain…

In 2007, I was living in LA, single (as usual), no prospects for dates or a boyfriend and I was pretty damn sick of it. This had gone on for years. Even when I had boyfriends, they were so non-committal that I still felt single. That sucked!! I thought of all of the incredibly beautiful, intelligent, sexy, successful, cool, sane, no child having, fun women that were in my circle – and there were tons of them – and I realized that we were ALL SINGLE!!! It made absolutely no sense to me. I surmised that the problem was in living in LA-LA land which is full of EXTREMELY delusional men that are always searching for “the next best thing”. They always think that there is someone better around the corner and if they commit to just one woman, they are going to somehow miss out. Can you say, damaged little boys in pseudo grown mens bodies! Geez!!! It would be different if they all looked like Brad Pitt or Denzel and they had that attitude, but trust, they did not. The most troll-looking mofos had the same belief system. Crazy thing was, women in LA-LA land are so desperate for love or to “be discovered” that they completely eliminate anything that even looks like a standard and they very willingly, sometimes fight to be with the trolls. A woman like me that holds herself in very high regard and has a very clear cut set of standards for the man in her life will be spending weekend nights alone or going out with the girls all the time. Trust me on that one! So, I decided that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result was pretty damn stupid, so I began to look for alternative places to live. If the mountain won’t come to Mohammed, then Mohammed will go to the mountain! There had to be a city that I could live in that met my criteria: great weather, awesome people, great energy, lots of singles, culture, individuality is celebrated, not racist, lots of wealthy people, hot dudes and cool chicks. Aside from LA, that meant Austin for me. I had been to Texas and Austin many times and the vibe I got was that men in that part of the country are more “relationship minded”. You always see tons of people getting married and starting families. In the 10 years that I lived in LA, I never attended one damn wedding!! I do not know anyone that got married. How damn crazy is that?!!?! I decided to move to Austin, but the time was not right. In my heart, I knew I had more to accomplish/experience in LA and I was right. It was a full 3 years later, in July 2009, that The Universe let me know that it was time to come to Austin and meet my man!!! Yee-Haw Ya’ll!!!!

In getting settled here, aside from finding a place to live, I was laser focused on building a pool of lots of guys to date. I decided to use my marketing expertise to advertise my availability and to meet some dudes. I used many methods to meet guys, including one month on Match.com…. I got off after a month because online dating sucks and it is too tedious for me. It was, however, the most effective way to get some big numbers of men to screen thru. I started dating my 2nd week, with the goal of having 2-3 dates a week. Keep in mind that in LA, if I had 3-4 dates in a year, it was a damn miracle! After being here for 6 weeks now, I have dated approx. 8 guys and I have double digits in escrow waiting to schedule time with me. I had to make a spreadsheet to track them. I’m following author Myreah Moore’s advice in her book, ‘Date Like A Man: What Men Know About Dating and Are Afraid You’ll Find Out’. It is her “Pair-and-a-Spare” strategy. I’m really loving meeting all types of different men that are all cool in their own way. BTW…just for clarification, dating does not mean have sex with. If you are single and dating and want to become serious with the dude, then you might want to keep the coochie on lock until you get some level of commitment. If you do want to get-your-freak-on, then get you a FWB (friend with benefits) and keep it on the downlow. Not saying I do this…it’s just a suggestion for those that might be taking notes. The lesson in this for all of you single ladies out there that are complaining that you cannot find a man, consider changing your location to a place where the odds are in your favor! Don’t keep going to the same dry ass well expecting to quench your thirst!

Sidebar: Also, please make sure you have “DONE THE WORK” on yourself before you begin to realistically expect that you will attract your soulmate. If you have “issues” then deal with that sh*t and stop dragging your same old trunk full of hurt/betrayal/anger/bullshit into your next relationship. Let it go, clear your heart and attract the Love you deserve. Take your big-girl pill, get the help you need to release your sh*t and release yourself from the shackles of your issues! Two amazing self-development resources I highly recommend are: psiseminars.com… and www.landmarkeducation.com…. I have gone thru Psi Seminars and the Woman that I am today vs. the girl/pseudo woman that I was 5 years ago when this journey started is absolutely incredible! Also, I suggest you get your Spiritual house in order. Just a suggestion.

In doing all of this dating, I am learning a lot about myself. I used to have major rejection issues and would be hurt if someone decided they didn’t want to date me. Not any longer, thank God. Mama dealt with that issue! Now, I have given very clear instructions to The Universe that if a guy is not into me and does not want to see me, then please, effortlessly allow him to self-select himself out of my life with a quickness. I then tell God “Thank You for keeping the space clear in my life for my Soulmate when you are ready to reveal him to me.”. This stance allows me to operate from a position of peace and power. It feels good.

I have also become very clear in what I want in a man and I have defined it in my soulmate list. The aspects of a man that I once deemed so important and non-negotiable are not that way any longer. I’ve eliminated all notion of what “package” my soulmate should come in. The whole “tall, dark and handsome” criteria is a nice-to-have, but it doesn’t really matter. I find myself being mysteriously drawn to men that are completely the opposite of what I would choose if the picking were up to me. This feels wonderful! Anyway, I’m rambling. I’ll do more posts on this topic as new and exciting things come up. In the meantime, enjoy this video. Even though it looks a bit silly, the knowledge they are dropping is the truth!! Enjoy!

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Seeking Your Soulmate? Use The Secret – Attract love and become soulmate-ready through intentional thoughts and actions.

Okay guys, here is the real-deal Holyfield recommendation/advice from The Dating Diva!! Ya’ll like my new nickname? I think it fits. Anyway, I just wanted to fill you in on an amazing resource that found it’s way into my life that REALLY helped me get clear about what I want in a Soulmate. I actually “borrowed” this book from the house of one of the guys I recently dated and I literally could not put the book down. Arielle Ford is amazing in her ability to very clearly help you to utilize the power of intention and attraction to find your soulmate. It’s just another tool in my arsenal. I’m following the steps and so far, so good!!! I’m amazed at the caliber of man I am attracting and how much FUN I am having now with the process of dating. I have been able to release the self-induced pressure I placed my self and allow things to flow as they will.

My biggest aha from the book was my need to rewrite my soulmate list I wrote 2 years ago. I pulled it out and can ya’ll believe that mofo was 3 pages, FRONT AND BACK!!! WTH?!?! No damn wonder I’m still single. Geez! The book allowed me to become clear about listing my non-negotiables in what I want in a soulmate. Before, I had listed the whole damn kitchen sink. My first attempt at a rewrite allowed me to get down to one page – still front and back! Arrrrrrrrgh… After a lot of prayer, I was able to get it down to what it is now…one page- front only. I love the qualities of what I am looking for. Reading my list fills my heart with love and keeps me in that space. It feels REALLY GOOD! Having one page also allows The Universe to use a net instead of a damn Dixie Cup to find my soulmate, LOL!!

Anyway, enjoy the video and if you decide to buy Arielle Ford’s book, and I highly suggest that you do, please use my link below. Namaste!

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eHarmony Finally Arrives to the 21st Century

Well, well, well…look what I found as I was surfing today. After filming & promoting hundreds of eHarmony “successful couples” commercials and print ads, they FINALLY decided to feature a BW/WM interracial couple. Wow…I guess they finally realized that loves comes in all shapes, colors and sizes and that Black Women and White Men getting married is a beautiful concept, so they had to get with the times. Kudos.

Traci, the woman in the video is absolutely gorgeous!! I looooooooooove her complexion and her beautiful smile. I love their obvious chemistry, the way he looks at her, their body language and how he constantly touches her. This is what I am praying for in a relationship. What a great couple! Enjoy!

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