Isn’t this supposed to be a travel blog…Why aren’t you traveling??

I received an email on Facebook from someone asking me why my recent posts for the past few months have not been about my travels. Fair question as this blog is called ‘The Onyxtraveler’ for goodness sake. Let me explain. For those you don’t know my history, let me bring you up to speed. Since 2005, I have had the very Blessed honor of being able to vacation/holiday for 6 months out of the year. I am able to do this because I am a Consultant which allows me to work my ass off for 6 months out of the year, make a nice bit of $$$ and then spend it all while on Holiday the other 6 months out of the year. As I spent the first half of this year in Australia and traveling here in the states, I am now in the what I call my “grounded” stage where I have to actually earn an income. Yuck!! I have to be honest and admit that this method of doing things has gotten beyond old, stale and boring for me. I really HATE working!! I am most happiest and at total peace when I am jetting off to foreign lands, meeting amazing people and having adventures with strangers and new friends I meet on the road. Living my now pedestrian life off the road totally sucks for me as I do not like doing “regular” things that I do here in the states. BORING!!! I am chomping at the bit to hit the road again, but my time in OZ really kicked my financial ass and I have to seriously refill the coffers again.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not unhappy here in my new home, Austin Texas. Nothing could be further from the truth. I love it here!! This city is freaking awesome and the people that I have been Blessed to meet are all amazing as well! I’ve decided to make Texas my home state for tax/business reasons (the cost of living is uber low here and there is no state income tax) and Austin is really the only city in Texas that I could stand to live in. I’m just ready for new challenges and complete spontaneity in my life that travel provides me. I’m also ready to date some more Foreign guys. I miss hearing a sexy accent whispering sweet nothings in my ear, hehehehe. To avoid this prolonged time of being “grounded” in the future, I have spent my time working on multiple income channels that will provide more than enough capital coming to me in such a way that I will not have to be tied down to a Consulting gig, no matter how cool it is. I will be able stay on the road for as long as I want to and be “grounded” because I choose to, not because I have to. This is a work in progress and I will be happy to share details after I hit the road again late January/early Feburary 2010.

It is truly 100% possible to have the life you desire. It doesn’t matter if you have kids, are married or single, whatever. You just have to be clear about what you want and take focused and consistent action. I’ve had to overcome quite a few hurdles to get to this point in my life and I am only at the beginning, but the point is, I am doing the work!! I’m CONSTANTLY working on myself to remove my own internal barriers (basically making myself get the eff out of my own way! ), connecting with the right people, learning and implementing new skills and challenging myself to dream bigger and live larger than I ever imagined. I try many things. Some work amazing well and some do not. The point is, I do not effing quit!! If you only knew the life I have mapped out for myself. OMG, it is freaking amazing! With my proven power of manifestation, it is only a matter of me being clear and focused to create the life I want for myself. Thank you for being on this journey with me!!! I’m so looking forward to 2010 being the most incredible year of my life thus far. What dreams/goals/plans are you working on for 2010?? If not now, then when?? If not you, then who???

On an ending note, I finally got to see the Disney/Pixar film ‘Up’ last night and it is an absolutely brilliant film. There is a montage at the beginning of the movie that shows the main character Carl & his life with his soul-mate Ellie (they met as little kids). Ellie had a dream since she was a child of going to Paradise Falls in South America and living a life of adventure. She made Carl swear he would take here there. This montage brilliantly and poignantly shows how it is so easy to let “life” get in the way of our true dreams. Don’t wait to live your dreams. Tomorrow is not guaranteed! Enjoy this beautiful clip & try not to cry. XOXOXO

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Have You Had Your AHA Moment?

Hey Everyone,

I attended a life changing networking event this week in my new city and I was completely overwhelmed with the caliber of Entrepreneurs that live in this city and work in my field. In theory, I knew that was the case, but I had no idea just how true it was. One of the people I met was a woman named Vicky Flaugher who owns the website www.smartwomanguides.com…. If you are a Female Entrepreneur, it is a great site to check out. I was led to the woman I’m going to hire to be my Coach after looking at her site. This is a person I have been praying for for a while.

As I was perusing her site and getting to know more about her, I found this youtube video that she has posted and I decided to post it here. It talks about your “aha moment”. Have you had one? Did you act upon it or did you ignore it as so many of us do. I have had several “aha moments”, the most recent one, of course, being to give up my life in Los Angeles and to go to Australia and to now settle down in my new city. A city where I have wanted to move to since 2007. I am working on keeping space clear to receive many more “aha moments” regarding Love, Entrepreneurship, Service, Spirituality, etc… Looking forward to sharing those with you as they come. Please feel free to comment about your own “aha moments” and how they changed your life. Namaste!

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Geekiness, Fortune & Romance at the World Internet Summit – I’m in Heaven!!

It’s day one of WIS and I truly cannot believe I’m here.  I only found out about WIS in late December and even though I had no earthly idea as to how I would get here financially or logistically, I made the decision in Dec. that come March, I would be here and HERE I AM!!!  GOD IS GOOD!!  I am supposed to be here!!I start out the morning with a shower, get dressed and then proceed to do my hair.  I decided to go for mega dramatic hair for this trip and got my new weave with 22in long hair.  Just to help you visualize, remember Cher in the 70′s and how long her hair was – yeah, that was 22 inches!!  My hair is down to my big chocolate bootie and it looks good!!  I got Indian Wavy from extensions plus – http://extensions-plus.com – the absolute best place to buy quality hair.  This will last me for years.  Anyway, I plug in my curling iron with my aussie adapter and after 5 minutes, I pick up my iron to curl my hair and I notice the iron is turning black.  Huh???  I took a small piece of hair to curl and within 1/2 seconds, my hair was burning.  DAMN!!! The voltage here in OZ is 220v and my curling iron is only up to 120v.  My curling iron burned the hell up!!  That also means that my flat iron won’t work.  Ain’t this a bitch!!!  My sista-girls will understand the seriousness of this situation – here I am all the way across the damn world in a land where there are NO BLACK PEOPLE, much less any sistas that need a curling iron that gets super hot to make my pretty curls or to straighten this suff when I want to rock the silky straight.  What am I gonna do???  Luckily, I just got this hair put in right before my flight so it was not looking crazy so I was able to fluff it and go and be okay. The rest of the three days when I am counting on “pimping the pretty” and need to rock some fly hair, uh yeah, I have no clue.

Anyway, it’s now about 8:15 and the doors to the conference open at 9:00am.  I plan on being front and center as my golden strategy that I employ at every conference/seminar I attend is to be sitting within the first 2-4 rows on an end seat so that when they call for questions, I get to stand up, front and center in front of the entire room of usually 500+ people, take the microphone and say something incredibly profound. I do this early & fairly often in the conference so that the whole room gets to see me, hear me & make the decision that they want to get to know me. (Golden tip #1 – if they call for someone to go up onstage – get your ass up out of your seat and be the first one up!!} It saves me the stress of having to introduce myself to people as they now come to me. As I am almost always the ONLY BLACK WOMAN IN THE ROOM or the only one that is halfway “Diva-Delicious” looking, I always have a beeline of men that will buzz around trying to get my attention throughout the weekend and I get to pick and choose who I want to be with like a Queen Bee.

Ladies, pay CLOSE attention to what I am about to tell you as I am about to drop some SERIOUS man-getting knowledge on you that I need to be getting paid for. Fellas, I am going waaaaaaay off topic here, so you can tune out.  As I mentioned in my “about me” page, one of my 3 objectives in traveling is to meet lots of hot, sexy men.  For those of you that do not know me, this also typically means WEALTHY men – should be a given, but some of you are not informed.  My girlfriends are always asking me where in the world do I meet all of the p-a-i-d men that I date.  Aside from my own neighborhood – hello, why do you think I deliberatly chose to live in Beverly Hills when I moved to LA – I also go to a ton of conferences/seminars every year that attract wealthy people.  I really hope ya’ll are taking notes here!!!  You have to go to real estate, internet marketing, self-development, professional organizations, Success, wealth protection, wealth creation events/seminars.  These are all topics that are of interest to me and that I actually implement in my life.  You can’t just show up not knowing anything about the topic.  You have to have a true interest as there is a huge time & financial investment in attending these events. Every one I attend (and I attend at least 5 a year), I spend anywhere from $3,000-$15,000  on each one with airfare, lodging, food and educational materials if I choose to buy courses. I am serious about investing in myself professionally, personally and educationally but I reap the rewards too. You have to be able to talk the talk and and know enough to know who the TRUE PLAYERS are.  You do not want to get stuck talking to a bunch of newbies or broke people trying to learn the “secret” to becoming rich.  Hell, you can stay home for that!!  LOL.  Do your homework ahead of time to know who is speaking and what type of people follow them. You need to be able to speak intelligently, not be shy, go talk to everyone. When you meet someone that you have an interest in, you need to be ready:  {GOLDEN TIP #2 – Have business cards made up – but not your typical business card.  Go to vistaprint.com… and get 250 cards for free.  I would actually suggest you upgrade to the next level card with the glossy finish.  You want to put your photo on the card (assuming you are pretty of course, otherwise, I really can’t help you), your full name, email and phone number. Instead of some bullshit company name and title that suckers put on their cards, simply put “Entrepreneur”. This will accomplish 3 things: 1. he’ll remember you when he pulls out your card later and there is your beautiful face looking back at him 2. he will know how to contact you and 3. he’ll be intrigued by the mystique of the “Entrepreneur” title to want to get to know you better.  You better make sure you can back that sh*t up though and really have something going on.}  Google Brian Tracy, Dan Kennedy, Jack Canfield, Armand Morin, Jeff Johnson,  Mark Victor Hansen, John Childers..etc to get a clue as to what I am talking about re: the types of events you should go to.)  Do enough homework so that you can talk about strategies briefly and ask the guy to talk about what he does.  Ladies, you know that the only voice a man wants to hear is his own  so use this to your advantage.  Listen intently to every word he says as if he is dropping gold bombs.  Nod, smile, throw in some “uh-huh’s” , ask a few questions, keep eye contact so he thinks you are really listening.  Meanwhile, you are listening trying to find out a way to connect later for drinks/dinner or lunch if it is early in the day – but only after you have determined if you are interested.  Is he totally hot and you just want a kissing buddy, is he super smart and you really want to learn from him and see if you can do some work together, is this someone you can mastermind with, will this be a lifelong friend or is he super-paid and you think you may have a winner? Either way, this stuff works!! {Golden tip #3 – if you are one of my girls that will not date interracially, then you can completely ignore my advice above as it only works with men that actually want to date a Black Woman}.
Okay, so back to WIS…the first day was intros and lots of newbie info. I spent the day memorizing the agenda, familiariazing myself with the speakers and determining which ones I truly wanted to connect with and when would they be speaking.  Also spent time with my friend David. I met David at the Armand Morin conference in Phoenix the weekend of Dec 3-5 2008.  He was in the states from Australia with his family on holiday and he introduced himself to me during one of the breaks.  We ended up connecting and I met more of the people he met and at the end of the day, we had a group of about 10 that wanted to continue communicating so we created a mastermind group.  We would talk weekly on Sundays about what we internet marketing projects we were working, giving each other advice, encouragement, etc…  During one of our first calls, we were stating our goals for 2009 and I told about my intention to be in Australia in March for WIS, even though I had no idea how it would happen.  As it so happens, David lives on the Gold Coast where WIS was being held (conincidence huh?  Thank you God for that one) and he invited me to stay at his house with he and his family while I was in town after the conference ended.  I was so grateful for that!!  David and I and his friends spent a ton of time together at this conference.  Also, during the conference, I put in a request for a roommate as I did not want to pay $400 a night myself.  I ended up (again by coincidence, Thank you God again) with a woman named Susan from Sydney. She is an amazing person that became a really good friend to me.   The rest of the day was spent at the conference before heading off to bed for 11 hours of sleep.

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